4 years ago, I was one of those people, who noted down the negative outcome of everything I was about to do. After I watched an insightful movie “The Secret“, something changed in me. My inner transformation was on its way. I cannot find words to thank my best friend Ashish for telling me about this movie. Slowly and steadily, I started educating myself with self-help books and literature on human behavior and importance of positive thinking. 4 years later, I believe that I am ready to share my learning by conveying the message of self-motivation and positivism to others.
If you are currently looking to change your life around and amass self-confidence here are 10 simple ways of doing it. The list below is my top 10 favorite rituals (in no particular order).
1. Love yourself & tell it to yourself
Your unconscious mind is always alert, looking out for you, but only relaying the information you require to finish the task at hand. Self-love is sometimes lost within your unconscious mind and it becomes essential to recall this every now and then. All you have to do is tell yourself how much you love yourself, how much you care for your well-being. Doing so bolsters your inner-self, you will instantly start feeling your worth in this world and this feeling produces endorphin surge throughout out your brain. Everyone in this world wants to feel loved by others, but never forget the importance of loving yourself first. You are the way you are for a reason, accept it, own it.
2. Smile in the mirror each–time, every–time
Smiling is a one of the powerful expression humans have, one which has the power to produce endorphin in your brain. Smile is a contagious motivator and is one of the easiest ways to cheer up your spirits. Couple this with a mirror, your conscience mind will start to think everything is the best it can be and this feeling creates good vibes. Give this a try, works like a charm.
3. Pump your arms up in the air
This is a universal body language of winning and success. A study found that even blind people use this body language to convey the feeling of winning. Doing this often gives you a boost in self-confidence and nurtures a can-do attitude in you. Pumping your arms gives you assurance that you are a winner. If things are going tough, practicing this body language can give you enough motivation to pass through the rough patch. No wonder Sylvester Stallone in his landmark boxing movie “The Rocky” does this after running up the steps of the Philadelphia Museum of Art.
4. Count numbers using your fingers
This is one of the uncommon rituals which I happened to try out and to my astonishment, it worked. It makes one realize that time is running away and that the only way to make good of the situation is to concentrate on the task at hand and give it all we have got. This is also a great way to cool your nerves down when stressed or angry.
5. You are stronger than your problem
Self-confidence comes from within, until you do not believe things are possible you will keep waiting for situations to get ideal and this is not how an optimist should live. Hope is a good thing, but belief is one step higher. One of my teacher’s on the topic of public speaking told that, if we feel the audience is better or smarter than us we will not be able to control our anxiety, but the moment you tell yourself that you are not afraid of the challenge the audience might pose, in way of questions, you will soon realize your talk was a good one. Believing you can, converts to believing you will.
You need to tell yourself that every problem or challenge you face is puny and that it is no match to your ability. If your ability is not at the level it should be work on it to change it, but do not work on de-motivating yourself.
6. Volunteer without expectations
Volunteer for a cause which interests you, a cause which drives you and allows you to put a smile on a strangers face. Be it visiting an orphanage or an old age home. These experiences will change the way you think, you will soon realize the needs of everyone are different. Introspect what your needs are, what makes sense to you. This introspection will lead to a heightened sense of who you are and fill you with a feeling of gratitude. Gratitude is a blissful feeling, to know you are lucky is a good feeling to experience.
7. Call your family and friends
Call you parents or your close friends as often as possible. Such love which has been tested with time is another blessing. The people who trust and love you always want good things to come to you. They will support you with all their heart, and to know there is someone supporting you also bolsters your confidence level and builds positive vibes.
8. Think binomial
Procrastination starts from giving ourselves choice to lose control of our discipline and actions. Most of our challenges may have well be results of procrastinating things. Thinking binomial allows you to make goals and strictly follow-up your actions. By binomial I mean,
Success: If I do as I planned
Failure: If otherwise
Be hard on yourself and follow this method. Do this for a month and it will soon turn into one of your best personality traits: Pro-activeness.
9. One minute meditation
To have a positive mindset, you also need to have a balanced, calm, and rested mind. One minute meditation does just this, it quickly releases you of stress and in-turn makes it easier for you to relax. A relaxed mind can think, function, and act in a positive manner.
I strongly advise you to see this video from Martin Boroson, I have included this in my routine only a few months back.
10. Always keep your stomach satiated
This ritual is one of the most important in my to do list everyday! I have observed my moods change drastically when I am hungry and usually the feeling of being tired makes me feel really bad both physically and mentally. So, I believe that to be an optimist one has to always take care of one’s diet. Eat soon as you get hungry and you will see your moods remain constant all through the day.
If someone asked me which of these rituals was my favorite, I would have to quote the essence of the first ritual.
“Everyone in this world wants to feel loved by others, but never forget the importance of loving yourself first. You are the way you are for a reason, accept it, own it.”